Me, Myself, and I

November 4, 2004

Limited understanding leads to misinterpretations and
imperfect actions. These actions are perceived emotionally
and assumed to be conducted with full intention and under-
standing of the causes and consequences by the actor. This
realization raises strong emotional sensations in the receiver
and causes responses that are not based on full consideration
(i.e., something one is regretting later on as too excessive and
out of line).Responses and consequences are something that
are not intended by the initial actor but simply caused by the
limited capabilities of perception and understanding by both
parties. From here, things just get worse and, after a while,
neither party has any control of the matter and the original
starting point has lost any significance and relevance. This is
how a vicious circle is created and the results are observable
around the world every day. And everything starts just from
our limited capabilities to perceive and understand the world
we’re living in.

Our own standing point is very important to us. We regard
it as the right one because it is so real to us—we have no
doubts. Therefore, it is the “truth” and because it is so obvious,
there cannot be any possibilities of misunderstandings by
other people; they simply cannot ignore it and be so blind as
not to see simple “facts” that even we can understand. But
they do not act accordingly, and their behavior is so much
beyond our belief that we cannot stand it. It’s too much, and
we need to do something about it…

Yet everybody lives in his or her own subjective reality. We
are fixed to our own needs and requirements. Our thinking is
full of “us.” We get offended, we have the most at stake, we
have to give up, we have to sacrifice, we are not benefiting,
and so on. It is that We that prevents us from making a dif-
ference. As long as it is our needs that have to be appreciated
and fulfilled first, nothing will ever change. Everybody clings
to his or her own mind-set and perception of the world. And
we have an urge to be right—and let others to know it as well.

One needs to learn to give away. Over time, we acknowl-
edge seeing a broader picture where different opinions and
points of view can be presented and maintained without a
need to conflict. There is no need to be right or gain some-
thing. The whole notion of “us” is just something of our own
fabrication. We only need to let it go—and that’s the only
thing we are giving away, in reality.

This is the original text, and an edited version can be found in the Fragments of Reality -book.