Becoming

Often we want something—we want to learn new skills, get rid of bad habits, or change something in our behavior. We are continuously in a state of wanting or becoming. Are we ever getting anywhere?

Wanting (or becoming) states loud and clear that we do not have something. If we had the "something," we would no longer want it. Therefore, wanting is always related to time. It is a declaration that asserts that we are lacking something, and in the future we would desire to change or gain something. But we need time. Or do we?

Unfortunately, we are in a loop. This loop is just the steady state of wanting. The object of wanting changes, but we are always looking at the future. Never is the right time "to be" the something. Instead of wanting, we should act. It is easy to postpone and only want something. And time is our greatest excuse. If we do nothing, it does not just get better with time. If we want something, it requires action right now—never in the future. Every moment we want something means that in that moment we declare that we are not something. How could we be something else if we are saying that we are not? This contradiction results that we are just wanting and getting exactly what we desired—purely want.

The first step is to stop wanting and start to act. For instance, how do you become a gentleman? You simply be one. It is often hard to instantly change your behavior, but the mind-set can be changed immediately. When we stop repeating that we want (i.e., "I'm lacking something") but start to act we are already halfway through. We declare who we are by our actions and then we are.