Often we want something—we want to learn new skills, get
rid of bad habits, or change something in our behavior. We
are continuously in a state of wanting or becoming. Are we
ever getting anywhere?

Wanting (or becoming) states loud and clear that we do
not have something. If we had the “something,” we would no
longer want it. Therefore, wanting is always related to time. It
is a declaration that asserts that we are lacking something,
and in the future we would desire to change or gain some-
thing. But we need time. Or do we?

Unfortunately, we are in a loop. This loop is just the steady
state of wanting. The object of wanting changes, but we are
always looking at the future. Never is the right time “to be”
the something. Instead of wanting, we should act. It is easy to
postpone and only want something. And time is our greatest
excuse. If we do nothing, it does not just get better with time.
If we want something, it requires action right now—never in
the future. Every moment we want something means that in
that moment we declare that we are not something. How
could we be something else if we are saying that we are not?
This contradiction results that we are just wanting and get-
ting exactly what we desired—purely want.

The first step is to stop wanting and start to act. For
instance, how do you become a gentleman? You simply be
one. It is often hard to instantly change your behavior, but the
mind-set can be changed immediately. When we stop repeat-
ing that we want (i.e., “I’m lacking something”) but start to
act we are already halfway through. We declare who we are by
our actions and then we are.