How to speak well

0:00 Brushing can partly be also because you are in the center of attention and it's an uncomfortable spot. So your thoughts are not exactly in the speed of your speak. So that results that filler words it is. Yet I would say that the biggest thing is that you haven't really figured out what you want to say. Your thoughts are not clear. So your speak is in level with that. Have you noticed that when you're doing public speaking where you are a little bit butterfly in your stomach and you don't find the words or you think that you're stumbling something or it takes ages for you to get something across or somehow you feel that you didn't actually deliver it properly. And then you watch it afterwards and you don't notice those things at all. I think that's a part of the psychology as well.

0:53 We perceive the time going fast. And it actually really is. So there's more stuff happening in your mind than what other people notice and what's coming out of your mouth as well. So that's also something to keep in mind. Time is relative. And in this case it's actually on your side. It's also good to have some kind of excitement because there's also the stage at least in my case that I don't really give a damn. So it's better to actually. A little bit care about what's happening than be almost like completely. I wouldn't care less. So yeah. Enjoy the ride as long as you can. When you see someone giving that flawless, effortless, just perfect speech. It very well may be that it's actually been done already a hundred times.

1:48 Artists do it all the time. They start with small venues at the end of the tour. They go to the bigger arenas just to get to the field, just to make everything perfect because it's a step process. You improve all the time. You see what works and what doesn't. Same with the stand up comedians. They start with small. They have some ideas and then they have the great ideas at the end. And that's where the big crowd is. You can always raise the bar and I think it's a good thing to do, but you cannot do everything at once. So. Focus on a few things, but I would really always start with the quality. What are you saying? And you being concise and clear at the intent. And then comes the formalities, which are then whether they are filler words and intonation and all the rest of it, which are supporting your message, but they're not the message. And how do you raise the bar?

2:45 Well, for example, no retakes. Listen everyone on 4X. So you kind of. Assume that they are all speaking that fast and they are so precise, clear and concise in that level of speed. And then gradually you will start to do it yourself as well. It makes so much sense if over 50% of the brain capacity goes to the visual and you just block it off. So now you have all the required presence and sensations to focus on the task at hand.