# Forgiveness
- URL: https://www.petrikajander.com/forgiveness/
- Author: Petri Kajander
- Date: 2004-11-06
- Language: en

Our life is full of incidents and situations where we are strongly emotionally attached. These occurrences can have a significant impact on our behavior. We can feel deeply involved with something but still have little understanding of the real drivers and motivation. It is not uncommon that we even know deep inside that we should act differently than the way we are acting in practice. Still, there is something in us that is forcing us to a certain kind of behavior.

Attachment is a sign of fixation and pattern that is deeply rooted to us. We have a strong standing point in something— great expectations or emotional affections. These sensations may not be very logical and sensible to us, but they have a power to overdrive our cognitive understanding and will. Some intensive occurrences can make us to feel very confused and fixed to the current state of being.

Often, we are very hard on ourselves. We expect more from ourself than we do from others. It is easier to forgive and give away to other people than forgive ourself. This makes our life hard and difficult. Our internal contradictions and expectations drive us to hardship and struggle. We blame ourself and get frustrated when things are not in our control. Strong emotional feelings are something we have a hard time keeping in control. They can even blind us, causing us to act against our normal sense and better understanding. Especially in these cases, it is important to let go and forgive ourself. Emotional feelings are strong signals of our inner state and, therefore, should not be missed. We have to take them into account and overcome them. Our feelings cannot be forced under our cognitive will. We can only try to understand and forgive. They are to guide us and let us learn more about ourselves. Great lessons sometimes require hard methods. Therefore, forgiveness is very important and necessary. What we do for others we should also do for ourself—forgive and start with yourself.