# Detachment
- URL: https://www.petrikajander.com/detachment/
- Author: Petri Kajander
- Date: 2004-10-20
- Language: en

We often get carried away or overwhelmed by our emotions. We call this a state of being emotional or sometimes even irrational. In practice, we mean that we were in a condition where we were vulnerable to act in a way in which we might not normally act (i.e., we regret our behavior later on). In other words, we are stating that we lost control of ourselves; we were not "we" in the ordinary sense.

Detachment is a state of being where one observes everything from a distance. This means that one is not getting carried away or being emotionally more or less out of control (i.e., getting angry and so on). Detachment does not mean that we are passive or not involved in the moment—totally the opposite. It means that we are capable of being observant and active in every moment and, therefore, a more precise perception and behavior in life is possible.

Detachment is not dependent on the situation. It does not matter whether we are experiencing joyful and happy moments or sad and unpleasant surprises. Keeping a small distance from all matters enables us to have broader understanding of the issues and circumstances. Our personal ego and interests cannot block our way. Actually one learns to identify those, and in time gets rid of any personal selfish motives. No more big mood swings to the negative or positive—we can purely experience life as it comes without our expectations getting in our way. A fresh way of living.