Focus on Life™

It is assumed to be noble to live for others. This nobility can take many forms and some of them can be very difficult to identify. Still, in most of the cases the underlying motive is not benevolent even though the appearance tells a different story. Selfishness has many disguises.

No doubt serving and helping others is the highest cause there is, but not always. It is worthwhile to consider the motive for the help. In many cases the true motive is not pure and noble, on the contrary, it is an ego trip and boost without any limits. Hard to believe? Well, if it were really about the others there shouldn’t be any need for anybody else to know about the aid. Also the compassionate act should not direct any unnecessary attention to the helper. Any expectation of reciprocity is not an act of compassion. And this means anything, including the little word ‘thanks’ from the one you supported. Helping others can also be a way to reduce one’s guilt of something else in which case the issue has really nothing to do with helping others. It is just a means to deal with one’s own conscience.

What about the target of the help, is it far away and somehow exotic? People in the next block might as well need your help but is it somehow better if you focus on greater distance to give your aid? Often it would make more sense to help people close to you since you can make a larger impact—in addition of being a practical example for others.

Often taking care of one’s own business is quickly condemned as selfishness—having only a negative connotation nowadays. But this is a great fallacy as well. If everyone was supposed to pay attention only for others without caring for one’s own needs there wouldn’t be anyone feeling good and balanced anymore. The reality is exactly the opposite. In order to help others one needs to be in a solid position to give a helping hand. The only way to give a lot is to have plenty as well. This does not apply just to material things but basically every quality and virtue there is. If supporting others is an act of compassion then it should be carried out with the upmost care and the best possible way. Giving the best you have is not a light-hearted issue, is it? This is the test you most likely fail provided that you are not doing it solely for the compassion and love for others.

It looks at nobody,
but sees everyone.
Perceives no difference,
lays no judgment,
still keeps you company.

Gives you strength,
supports you while you’re down,
doesn’t blame,
or put you in to a shame.

You are always welcome,
never excluded.
No matter what happens,
or what you do,
something is here to stay,
and that’s for you.
Unconditional Love.

Way to see,
hear,
taste,
feel,
know,
and live the world;
With good intentions,
limited knowledge,
poor perception,
lacking observation
but still trying.

Without shame,
or humbleness,
knowing,
acting,
and behaving
with certainty,
rightness,
a sense of pride,
and justification,
no shadow of doubt,
or sign of imperfectness.

The wise will know,
acknowledge,
and let go.
Help with patience,
love,
and kindness.

We will learn,
and see the world,
in a way of perfectness,
with no trace of selfishness.

Unconditional existence without any reciprocity is a true state
of happiness. This level of being is not affected by any exter-
nal circumstances or situations. It is a stable and steady condi-
tion, which can be achieved by inner practice and persistence.
It is a pure form of being—totally loving and peaceful.
Harmony and inner confidence are experienced within and
are not, therefore, dependent on the outside world.

Happiness in its purest form is just another expression for
sympathy and empathy in their deepest meaning. This means
that happiness in its fundamental form is not reflected to the
subject itself; it is shared and experienced together with exis-
tence and with other beings.

Something that is conditional to circumstances or specific
to subjects has nothing to do with happiness. It is a desire or
selfish act in disguise. Lasting happiness is omnipotent with-
out an object, a time, or a place. It’s eternal and ubiquitous—
within our reach at every moment.