Disappointment is like happiness,
only a bit more serious.
It hugs you with its whole reach,
and does not let you go.
It whispers the story in your ear,
the way it should have happened.
It [...]

We want to be in control. We are not comfortable with
unpredictability. We would prefer to live in a predictable,
ordinary way, without any surprises. This is the underlying
assumption in our behavior.
Predictable, controllable life, however, is an oxymoron. We
hate to change, but on the other hand we long for excitement
and thrills. We want to be positively [...]

How can we learn about ourselves? By facing the Other.
Some time ago, I wrote about relationships and referred to
Martin Buber. Emmanuel Levinas was inspired by the work
of Buber and became one of the greatest French philosophers
of the twentieth century. Levinas pointed out that we can
only learn about ourselves by facing other beings that are [...]

Seldom can we experience silence by chance anymore.
Walkmans, TVs, radio, traffic, and household appliances keep
us company. There isn’t any moment in a day when we would
feel the silence without active effort. It takes a power blackout
to get us even close to the silence. What is it like, the sound of
silence?
We fill our life with [...]

You can see it from the outset. Some people have lots of wor-
ries and they have a large weight on their shoulders; they are
almost buried under the burden. Most of us, however, are
somewhere in between. We have some concerns and troubles
that create stress and tension, but we manage with them. Still,
we cannot say that we [...]

Why are we sad?
Because we are not happy.
Why are we excited?
Because we are not bored.
Why are we in love?
Because we are not lonely.
Why are we upset?
Because we are not content.
When we realize,
Then we only are.

Tags: dualism

Our world is based on dualities comprising items in time and
space. In other words, our life happens by and around physi-
cal concepts and things. This material preference is prevailing
and very carefully reflected in our mind as well.
All the important issues are formless. Joy, happiness, wis-
dom, knowledge, beauty, and love, to name a few. Plato [...]

Often we want something—we want to learn new skills, get
rid of bad habits, or change something in our behavior. We
are continuously in a state of wanting or becoming. Are we
ever getting anywhere?
Wanting (or becoming) states loud and clear that we do
not have something. If we had the “something,” we would no
longer want it. [...]

We love to fixate. We are afraid of new, unknown things.
Being novel is maybe the most difficult thing to do. A physi-
cal appearance is easy to observe and, therefore, the most vis-
ible way to see the patterns and changes, if there are any.
Some people never change their hairstyle during their entire
lifetime (and they do not [...]

Process is something that is not permanent and it serves a
specific purpose. It is not the end means but just a way to
carry out something.
We could be seen as a set of processes. Our physical body
changes over time. It creates new cells and destroys the old ones.
It is in a continuous process of keeping [...]